Setting and Communicating Boundaries in Weight Loss
Weight Loss
Morgan Medeiros MSc
July 14, 2019

Setting Boundaries in Weight LossYou’ve just told your partner that you’re making your health a priority. They’ve vowed to be supportive, applauding your decision. And the next day they bring home a box of doughnuts.

You’re incensed and a little hurt! Are they trying to sabotage you?

Maybe, maybe not. Behavior change is challenging for the individual undergoing the process of change, but also those around them.

If you’re recently embarked on a journey of change and have encountered negative nancies, inadvertent saboteurs, and other puzzling or downright aggravating behavior from family, friends, or coworkers, boundaries may be in order.

What are Boundaries in Weight Loss?

A boundary refers to a set of rules or principles that govern your life and how you expect to be treated/how you allow others to treat you.

Oftentimes, we fail to set boundaries because we have learned that we should accept a certain behavior from another in an effort to people please or be polite or appropriate.

Setting boundaries takes time and work, and can often feel incredibly selfish and challenging.

However, setting boundaries is important because the expectations we set for others will ultimately determine how they treat us and how successful we are in a time of healthy physical and emotional change.

In weight loss, setting boundaries and communicating them to loved ones can happen in many ways.

Providing Alternative Behaviors

For example, asking a loved one to show care or appreciation with non-food items rather than the provision of baked goods. For example, “Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness! It was so kind of you to drop off cookies to thank me for mowing your lawn. In the future, we’re really trying to reduce sugar, so a simple thank you is more than sufficient!”

Asking for Home-Based Supports

For example, asking your partner to not bring home trigger foods. Use “I” language rather than “You” language. “I would really appreciate it and it would really help me a lot if…” vs “Why do you always bring home junk?”

Advocating for Your Needs

For example, redirecting plans from happy hour to a shopping trip, expressing your desire to spend time with the other person while providing a gentle reminder of the goals you’ve set for your health.

Remember that setting a boundary is not selfish, and it does not mean that you don’t care about the other person or want them in your life.

Instead, it means that you want them in your life and you’re giving them the opportunity to help you be successful.

Morgan Medeiros is a certified nutritionist, holding a both a Bachelor and Master’s Degree in Clinical Nutrition. Morgan completed her undergraduate education at Central Washington University, and her graduate education at Northeastern University. During her time as a graduate student, Morgan focused her area of expertise in health education, weight management, and behavioral change. Morgan has experience working in areas of nutritional neuroscience and disease prevention, obesity prevention, and weight loss. Morgan also works in areas of nutritional analysis and menu labeling for restaurants, where she is able to creatively bridge her interest in food culture and health education. In her free time, Morgan enjoys traveling, reading, writing, running, and spending time with her family and friends (including- most importantly- her dog, Clyde).

, ,

Leave a reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *