What’s better than losing weight alone? Losing it with your BFF, of course!
Alas, as many would-be “losers” have learned, the process isn’t so seamless. You may start out strong, encouraging each other, swapping happy hour for the gym, and skipping break room goodies, but eventually, the cracks begin to show.
One of you begins to show up late to the gym, your workouts begin to become more of a social hour than a sweat fest, and suddenly drinks afterwards sounds like a fair trade.
One of you gives into a doughnut and subtly sabotages the other: what will one hurt? It’s all about moderation, right?
We’ve been there, and it’s frustrating.
Luckily, there are better ways to go about losing weight as a team. We’ve got the details on three do’s and don’ts if you’re planning on losing weight with your closest pal.
Do proceed with a “one thing” focus
No one person can be your everything: don’t expect your best friend to play the role of personal trainer, dietitian, and BFF all in one.
Pick one way for you and your friend to support each other, rather than expecting them to help hold you accountable in every level of your journey. Remember that the role of a best friend is not to be the judge and jury, but to accompany you as you move through your life.
In the case of big life changes, handling your journey and someone else’s is overwhelming, so it’s essential that you support each other but focus on yourself.
Do communicate clearly
Effective communication is the backbone of an relationship, friendships included. Create goals and be clear about what those goals are.
Rather than the arbitrary goal of “exercising more” or “meal prepping”, communicate that you plan to exercise three times a week, at 6pm, or that you plan to prep three meals at 5pm every Sunday.
Plan everything and give your friend the details so you go in with the same set of expectations and don’t spend half of your time together deliberating or socializing.
Don’t proceed unless your goals align
There’s a good chance your friend may not hold the same level of long-term enthusiasm for the journey of change as you do.
Or, their definition of change/success may be very different than yours.
You need to ask yourself if your goals are similar and whether or not your partnership is best left as is, lest you breed any unintentional resentment when one member of the party fails to live up to expectations.