If you’ve found yourself a part of a partnership steadily growing in pant size, you’re not alone: love chub is a real phenomenon, with 75% of couples gaining significant weight in their first year of dating.
Once the relationship has crossed the threshold of seriousness and has become a long term partnership, comfort and complacency in food, exercise, and general health habits tend to pack on the pounds-fast.
While many couples aspire to lose weight together, doing so is a difficult balance.
If you and your partner are attempting to lose weight together this New Year, we’ve got three essential tips to keep your partnership physically and emotionally healthy.
Do define your role
In change, it’s tempting to place one partner in the driver’s seat. In reality, both partners need equal say in a change that is affecting both parties.
Determine which responsibilities are shared (food prep, shopping, etc) and which responsibilities are individual (going to the gym, monitoring weight etc).
Otherwise, one member may end up doing the lion’s share of the work, to their own chagrin, while the other partner remains none the wiser.
Do designate clear boundaries and expectations
Effective communication is incredibly important in relationships, especially in periods of change.
If you’re upending the status quo on food and exercise, it’s essential that you communicate to your partner your goals and your methods towards achieving those goals.
Focus on the who, what, when, where, and why of your intended changes so that your partner understands what you need and why, and where they “fit” within that change. Designating clear roles, boundaries, and expectations in change can help prevent resentment before it occurs.
Don’t forget to check in regularly
Change can threaten a couple’s emotional dynamic: one partner may feel as though they are being left behind or criticized, so check in with your partner regularly to make sure you’re on the same page.
If you’re serious about losing weight together, you’ll need to be firm about your goal but flexible about your methods. Otherwise, it may be better to lose the weight solo while cheering each other on.